Filed under: Life
Came across this online and think it is so sad. Amazing really, the extent some people will go through to fulfil an obligation.
And judging from the comments, seems like alot of people have gone down this path before.
And this really makes me wonder, how many people exactly, get married because they are obligated to?
I hope this will never happen to me. Or you, for that matter.
I am afraid I am marrying the wrong woman, but I hope that our it will still work. Am I making a mistake?
My story is about guilt and regret. My fiancee and I met a long time ago, and I think that I have never truly truly been in love with her. When we first started going out in college, I never felt like she was the one. She was nice and sweet, but it always felt to me like there was something missing. But when I first tried to break up with her, she simply would not let me go, and because I ended up going into a deep depression I ran out of energy to resist her.
Filed under: Random Blather
If my partner cheats on me, it’s as much fault of mine as it is of his/her’s.
I put this statement up on iThink on Facebook and was surprised to find that 70% of the people disagreed with it. Most of them felt that there was absolutely no good reason to see someone behind their back and that the fault does not lie with them all.
Haven’t these folks wondered what caused the change of heart in their partner in the first place?
Ask yourself if you have been truly attentive to the needs of your partner recently. Have you been listening carefully to what he/she has been saying or have you just been “uh huh-ing” in your conversations. When he/she is unhappy and tells you so, do you take it as constructive criticism or find that he/she is merely nit-picking? Have you been reading his/her body language?
Just like how we secretly look for a better paying job with better prospects and a better boss while we are still committed to our current company, the dynamics are much the same with our partners. If our boss respects us by listening to what we have to say and we are getting what we want (i.e. decent pay, respect, responsibility, etc) there is no good reason why we’d want to leave. Even if we are approached by headhunters, we may not necessarily take up the job.
A relationship is a 2 way street. We have every opportunity to read the signs and every ability to affect the outcome of our relationship. The problem is, do we?
Filed under: Life
Seems like everyone is being bogged down by emotional issues these days.
Isn’t it funny how, when we have a great relationship going, all we can think about is how to make it better and nitpick at the imperfections?
And when a relationship ends, all we can think about is how happy we were previously, what we could have/should have done, reflect and moan about the lost good times and generally spend all our time feeling miserable?
It’s all abit silly really…this relationship thing.
Before we get attached, we spend all our timing thinking about how wonderful so-and-so is, and imagining how perfectly blissful life would be if we could just hold him/her in our arms everyday. The heart is a stupid thing (in this case) because we all know there is no such thing as a perfect person. But yet, in that dopamine induced high, we think that person is perfect. We’d gladly sacrifice any amount of sleep, and spare no effort in making that other person happy.
Not sustainable, of course. Especially if the dopamine had supremely clouded your vision at the onset. Ever wondered which part of your changes when the dopamine wears off?
Would you keep working at it or just give up and let nature take it’s course (which naturally will lead to separation, needless to say)? Will you proactively manage your emotions and actions to ensure that the relationship survives or will you passively sit there and wait and see what your partner will do/wants?
Will you hand over your heart over on a platter for dissection or would you prefer to cut out the tumour on your own?
Filed under: Random Blather
In case you didn’t know, some folks (in the States, where else?) have launched a nationwide lawsuit against Allergan (Botox manufacturer) to court on the basis that the wonder drug had either injured or killed their relatives.
Although the drug has been in the market for 19 years, and has been administered for over 15 million treatments worldwide, there have been serious cases reported, though of course, not widely known.
One of the most common side effects is the loss of the ability to swallow…which generally results in a slow death from starvation or asphyxiation. Considering that Botox is derived from one of the deadliest known poisons, this is not surprising.
Kinda scary, huh? Like you get an injection on your face, and the next few hours, you’ll be dead if you’re suay. LOL.
My mother is like dead worried that I’ll go “upgrade” my face one of these days (why?!! I also donno) so she couldn’t resist sharing this with me when the article appeared in the Straits Times on Friday. She had folded the newspaper neatly and had placed it strategically on my dressing table so that I’d immediately see it when I got home. >_<
Filed under: Random Blather
I found the below 3 points interesting enough to retype them here. LOL.
Enjoy. 
The Salary Axiom: The pay raise is just large enough to increase your taxes and just small enough to have no effect on your take-home pay.
Isaac’s Strange Rule of Staleness: Any food that starts out hard will soften when stale. Any food that starts out soft will harden when stale.
Lampner’s Law of Employment: When leaving work late, you will go unnoticed. When you leave work early, you will meet the boss in the parking lot.
Filed under: MEOW!
Filed under: Life
The simplest way to being happy in life is to be grateful.
When you are grateful, the green, green grass on the otherside doesn’t call your name. You make no comparisons, feel no envy, and pick no quarrels. You have fewer complaints and make less enemies.
This emotion virtue is sorely lacking in me. Try and try as I might to cultivate it, i find that being grateful is one of the most difficult things to do. I don’t mean simply saying “thank you” when someone does something nice for you, but to really be appreciative of everything you have in your life.
Like your health. Family. Job. Significant Other. Country. Weather. Money in the bank. Dog. Irritating brother. Annoying Pesky Very-Concerned-About-You friend.
We have so much, yet, all we do and want is to have more. Sometimes, my ego is so appalling that i disgust me.
Filed under: Random Blather
So, I dropped my phone into the toilet bowl today. I forgot it was in the back of my pants and before I knew it, it had fallen into the (public) latrine with a loud “plop!”.
A few (some very random) thoughts flashed through my mind in 2 seconds. Mainly…
- Crap. Shit. Die!!! My phone, my phone!!! WTF?!!?!?!!
- My phone is drowning. I need to pick it up!!!
- My phone is drowning in DIRTY toilet water. But I still need to pick it up!!!
- Should I pick it up? It’s dirty toilet water, full of germs and other ppls’ pee. Yeech!
- Of course must pick up lah!!!
- Crap. Shit. Die. Faster pick!!!!!
- Should I use my left or right hand?
- Use left hand! No watch!!
- Hmm. How come I don’t see air bubbles coming out of the phone?
- Stop thinking!! Pick it up! NOW!!!
